Common interests and pursuits are some of the most enjoyable ways of spending time with each other and in the long run help a couple to remain together. At the same time it is unreasonable to expect a partner to like the very same things in the very same manner all the time. While you both may enjoy traveling, your partner may like to explore a new place at her own pace while for you a vacation means packed with things to do and see. If you have been rejecting potential mates since they do not share your interests in exactly the way you want, it may be time to learn to relax a little.
You two are in agreement. You two are firmly committed to this collaboration. You are aware that this is a long-term issue. You are certain it is a long-term relationship, and your significant other shares this opinion. When you decide you want to spend the rest of your lives together, you begin to consider the kind of life you want to build. You are planting the seeds for the future you will share by taking this crucial step. You talk about significant life events like marriage, having kids, moving in together, and traveling in addition to daydreaming about them. In any relationship, having frank and open discussions about the future is a huge sign that you and your partner are on the same page. You are now thinking about and discussing the future years rather than making plans for the near future. You begin acting more like a couple than as two individuals as soon as you realize you want to be with this person forever.
In these fiercely competitive times, success and fame are the biggest draws in potential mates. A single woman looking for the man who has it all – looks, money and charm – might be ignoring men who are also kind, funny and good at what they do but perhaps not as tall as she would like them to be or not earning in millions. The alpha male in turn will only settle for the most glamorous looking woman who is also a Harvard business school topper. And for all his social and professional success, he may not turn out to be such a good partner after all.