With a title like 9 Ways Anyone Can Instantly Be More Attractive, you would think that I would pull a switcheroo and exclusively talk about the importance of feeling your feelings, self-love, character development, and being in integrity and generally feeling alive in your life. You know… things that make you shine from the inside out.
And guess what… your love for yourself, your life, the people around you, and the entire world are exactly the things that count most in terms of your overall beauty and attractiveness. But there’s another aspect to take into account: feeling sexy, beautiful, nourished, and at home in your body.
So today, I’m going full-on superficial mode and talking about some real surface level stuff for a change of pace.
One of the fastest ways to display more confidence? Make better eye contact.
Strong, solid eye contact is something that tends to bring up social tension. You know who can handle a good degree of social tension? Attractive people who aren’t afraid of human connection.
If you usually have fairly flighty eyes and find it hard to settle into yourself when making direct eye contact with someone, then this will be a vital growth edge for you.
You can get away with less eye contact while you’re speaking, but while you’re listening to someone you’ll really want to give them your full attention (and more eye contact than you might be used to).
In terms of the quality of your eye contact, the emotional tone matters.
Think direct, but not intimidating. Clear and open, but not intense. Relaxed… no furrowed brows or subtle jaw tension.
