Do this before you share any information that may potentially be perceived as negative or a “deal-breaker.” They may end up loving everything else about you and may think, “This woman is so wonderful and amazing, she may have x, y, or z challenges, but I want to give this a serious chance.”
The right man is going to love all of you—your pros will far outweigh the cons. You are a package and so much more than whatever or whatever problem you think you may have.
Again, I am NOT saying that you have to lie, you should not, but you should not lead with what you think is “negative” information.
In my 15+ years of experience coaching and matching elite singles, I’ve discovered a slew of common mistakes singles make on the first date. Today, I want to share the top 5 mistakes for you to avoid—and what you should do instead so you can actually enjoy the dating process and have fun during your pursuit for the right partner for you.
Now, you might think that sharing this information upfront is the right thing to do. You don’t want to waste the other person’s time, and you certainly don’t want to waste your own time,, so you lay it all out on the table right upfront. The truth is: doing this is NOT helping you be more successful in dating.
Now do not get me wrong, being honest and transparent is an excellent quality to possess in dating and life. However, if you are making disclaimers about yourself and drawing attention to something “negative” upfront before the other person has had a chance to know you, this is all they will ever know about you!
Another trap I see single women fall into is spending too much time talking about the wrong things. There are two parts to this. First, they typically only ask surface-level questions like, “Where did you go to school?” What did you study?” “What do you do professionally?” or “What do you do in your free time?”
Second, they often talk too much about past relationships, exes, and why they or the other person are still single.
While dating is a filtering process, it shouldn’t feel like a stiff interview with predetermined questions.