After a little introspection, you might discover that your upset has nothing to do with your partner. It could be old recordings from your past playing in your head.
These five mistakes are submitted for your consideration. Analyze your behavior in relationships and determine if you can find ways to avoid these mistakes. Finding the right mate can be an arduous task, but it can be entertaining, interesting and enlightening if you put your best foot forward and embrace the process and always be unapologetically you.
In all fairness, I believe the reason so many women respond by saying, “Nothing,” when their significant other asks what’s wrong is because, at that time, they don’t have the words to describe what they’re feeling. If you don’t have the words to explain it, most of the time he doesn’t have the tools to fix it. Most importantly, if you don’t have the words immediately at your disposal to express your feelings and frustrations, let your partner know that “yes” something is wrong, but you need a little time to gather your thoughts and examine your emotions so that you can state your feelings in a clear and concise way.
Think about it, when you need a charge anything goes. I’ve asked perfect strangers in an airport if they had a charger that would fit my phone or electronic device. And men looking for emotionless non-committal sex will do the same thing in any nightclub, restaurant, sporting event or airport. In desperate times a docking station is only a docking station until you find your personal charger. If you skip the logical progression of steps you can become the community docking station. Relax, slow down and do your best to only charge the appliances that you are familiar with.
You have to amass the skills necessary to see past the representative to the real person. To keep from being hurt over and over again, you must be willing recognize and embrace the facts as they are and not interject your own romantic notations and fairy tales into the situation. To begin the process, ask yourself, “What is the truth about the person and the potential relationship?” and “What could I be choosing to overlook?”
I’ve seen women and men overlook a multitude of sin and lie to themselves, saying, “I didn’t know”. The sad truth is they consciously or unconsciously chose to overlook the obvious.